So unless you’ve been living under a rock lately, you’ve likely seen or read something about the movie Bully, which has been given a ‘R’ rating because of the use of the ‘F’ word a few times. Basically, the movie looks at several young children who have been brutally bullied, at least one of which killed himself as a result. To me, this is a movie kids should see. Bullying runs rampant from an early age; I can remember being bullied as young as third grade.
At work yesterday some of us were chatting about the college shooting in California and multiple people brought up the question, “Why is it always males and never females?” This got me to thinking about the differences in male and female bullying.
For the most part, boys usually do physical harm like beating each other up. But girls, girls are vicious. Girls use words. Nasty words. Girls spread horrible rumors about each other, sometimes going as far as talking about each other to mutual friends. Think Mean Girls.
When I graduated high school, I thought I was free of the ‘Sh*t talking’ type of bullying. I was sort of wrong. Girls in college might be just as bad as high school girls, the only difference being that they are less concentrated in one building. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t claim to be any kind of ‘holier than thou’ person who never talks badly about anyone else – I’ve done it. Lately, the talking badly about one another’s supposed ‘friends’ seems to have gotten so much worse, or maybe I’ve just been dragged into it without my consent.
I guess what I’m trying to say is – what’s the point? What do you accomplish my talking badly about people you supposedly consider friends? It just hurts people when they find out (and trust me, they will find out) and ruins friendships.
After seeing what it does to people, my latest challenge to myself is to stop talking badly about people, partcularly those I consider friends, behind their backs. I challenge you to do the same.